RhodyRaybo's blog

Since I began wrestling in 2011, I have been keeping track of how many matches I have had and with whom. I count each opponent as a match, even if there are multiple opponents at a group match. With that said, I am very happy to say that today I had my 600th match! I know it's just a number, but I like my milestone matches and was especially excited that I was finally able to have a milestone match with Pecs44! He has been a mentor to me, always pushing me to my limits. Today's match was no exception. We rolled around in 3 different rounds trying to get the other to tap out. He tapped once and I tapped twice. He always gets me in the same position when I tap. He pins me and has his arms wrapped around mine where I can't even budge.

But I can honestly say, I have never had a disappointing match with Pecs. it's always intense, always sweaty, and always tons of fun. And he is the opponent I have had the second highest number of matches with at 54 matches. He's second only to Twisterman. These reasons are why I wanted a milestone match to be with him.

Thank you Pecs for all the fun times and all the encouragement you've been to me. Looking forward to many more matches in the future.

600! Yes! I made it to 600!!!!

I wrestle a lot of guys, many are "one and done" matches. Some are semi regular like "Michael" or "Stanley". And then there are others I only see once or twice a year. One guy in particular I will call "Guido", because he is a nicely muscular, strong, Italian guy about my age. He is not on any of the wrestling sites, but rather someone who responded to my Craigs List ad a few years ago. Since then I have only heard from him about a couple times a year even though he is only an 18 minute drive from my house.

The ritual that I have with him is the same each time. It's usually a Sunday evening after dark. I check my email and see his name pop up on an email in my inbox. When I see his name, I know he's home and wants me to come over. The first time we met, he came here, but since then I have gone to his place. But anyway, when I see the email, he simply asks how it's going. This is a mere formality, I know he wants to wrestle so I immediately respond and offer to come over. A few minutes later I will get another message telling me to come over. I quickly get a couple things together and hop in the car and text him.."I'm on my way". He responds with "please call when you get here".

After the 18 minute drive, I come to his street. It's a dead end in a very wooded section of a small suburb north of Providence. Anyway, I drive up the street and come to the end. He lives in a studio apartment on top of a garage. He always asks me to not use the driveway but a small field next to his apartment. It's a bit creepy, but intriguing. I call him as I pull up, he just says "come on in". I walk in the pitch black night up to the garage steps and halfway up, a light comes on. I get to the door and let myself in. Here's where it gets interesting. He is always ready, he's pushed back the furniture, got a comforter on the floor, and the lights are all off except for his tv and some candles he has lit. He is also sitting waiting for me ready to go, oh, and he's buck naked. I say very little, just short "hi, nice to see you" blah, blah, and I immediately disrobe. Once I am "ready", I just go to the floor where the comforter is and get on my knees, he gets on his knees. The whole thing is both creepy and cool.

Now the action begins. Guido is very strong. He works out religiously and he works in construction. He immediately gets me pinned and is sitting on me, sometimes on my face. I manage to squirm out usually only to find myself sniffing his privates again and again. I get a few breaks only to find myself being sat on most of the time. There is one drawback with Guido. He seldom lasts more than 25 minutes when we wrestle. I can always tell when he's running out of steam. When he has me in one of his face sitting holds, he starts going for my manhood. I feel the old rod of mine being yanked. At that point I try to draw it out a little more. I try harder to pull away and pin him down, usually to no success. I only find myself back under him with him grabbing. I then decide to tap, then after sitting and catching our breath, we do what a lot of guys do when wrestling, we climax. I will let you use your imagination on that one.

Afterwards, I go into his bathroom and shower the whole experience off me. We still don't say that much. I politely thank him for having me over, then it's time to drive back to my home. I drive away wondering when I'll see him again. But it's ok, it's always a fun time. I wish he wanted to wrestle a little more often, but each match is very memorable. Last I heard from him was January, so hopefully in spring, I'll hear from him again. Guido, luv ya bro! Let's wrestle again.

When I began wrestling 4 years ago, a young man who loved wrestling and cuddling answered my ad in Craigs List. I will call him "Andy". When he first contacted me, Andy told me he was getting married and moving to the Boston area afterward and would like to wrestle and cuddle with me. I told him I would be happy to. After much back-and-forth for almost 4 years, we finally met a couple weeks ago. He met me at the "site B" in Massachusetts so he wouldn't have to drive so far. We had a late night match after 9pm on a Friday. What was it like? He was a very strong jobber. All the hugging he told me over and over and over again that he wanted to do was not a disappointment. I don't think I ever had so much dialogue about getting together for so long with anyone else. We hugged, struggled, fought, and hugged some more. He's everything he promised he would be. I don't know if I will see him again anytime soon, but if I don't at least I finally got to meet and wrestle "Andy". Even if we don't meet again, I will fondly remember our match and wish "Andy" a blessed life in his marriage and any future family plans he has.

This week I had 2 milestones in the 2 matches I have had so far. Last night I wrestled my 100th opponent. I keep records using aliases and first names with dates that we wrestle and last night was the 100th opponent. And incidentally we met here on Meetfighters. There were 2 other guys that I have wrestled, but I don't count them because both only lasted like 2 minutes. One was just a short roughhousing because the guy had been recovering from surgery. The other that I don't count had his shoulder give out on him 2 minutes into the match. So that one was a total bust. But here's to 100 guys! Most were good guys, a couple made me almost quit wrestling entirely.

The other milestone happened this evening. I had my 500th match! Now when I say matches, I don't necessarily mean meetings. I have been to many "group matches". If there are 3 other guys at the group match and I wrestle each one of them at a time, each guy is a match. Though the majority of my matches have been one-one-one. The best thing about the 500th match was that it was with one of my favorites. I really wanted my 500th to be with either Jim-Bob, Kevin, Stanley, or Michael. And thank God, it was with "Kevin". And it's appropriate. I gave this wrestler the name "Kevin" in my blogs because he reminds me somewhat of the 18 year old guy who got me interested in wrestling at age 12. And while I can't say there was anything unusual about this 500th match, I can say that I was doing my favorite style of wrestling. Submission. We went on for 2 rounds that lasted 45 sweaty, grueling minutes. I got punched, choked, and pinned over and over again. I got sweat on during a warm July evening. And you know what? I loved it!!! We also got to talk and and hang out for a bit. Then I had to get home to get something to eat and he was going out with his wife later on. Cool think was, "Kevin" was also my 200th match, and I think that was the first time we met.

I used to feel that once I hit 500 I would taper off or call it quits. But I never thought I would make 500 in just 4 years! I started in July 2011. What a rollercoaster ride it's been. Kevin told me this evening that when he and I first wrestled I would quickly run out of breath. He says that's not the case anymore. Thank you Kevin, for your friendship, encouragement, and being my 500th match.

Ok, this week marks my 4th anniversary of wrestling. As of today, I have had 488 matches with 96 different guys. At least half were one-shot deals, but a handful became semi-regulars at some point, even if for a little while. So I figured I would share my insights on how to spot a potential semi regular wrestling bro apart from a guy you might only wrestle once or maybe just once a year.

First, my situation, I'm happily married to a wonderful woman who lets me wrestle in our basement. Also, I don't do sex, though grabbing doesn't bother me. For me that's all guy play. With that said, I will share the following signs that make the best potential semi regular wrestling bro.

PASSION! First, he has to have passion. He must love wrestling for wrestling sake. If he's just looking at the wrestling as foreplay, a serious wrestler like myself will always be disappointed, and it's unlikely you'll see each other again. Do as much chatting with him before you meet him. If the conversation quickly goes to "what happens if I get hard?"....don't waste your time. He doesn't really want to wrestle.

HONESTY WITH THEIR SIGNIFICANT-OTHERS! Whatever type of relationship they are in, if they can be honest with the person they are in a relationship with about their desire to wrestle, and you both click, then it is likely you will wrestle at least a few times. Three of my all time favorite wrestling bros were honest, at least to some degree, with their wives about wrestling. "Stanley" says his wife knows he needs his "guy time" and that she knows he's going to spar. "Kevin" cleared it with his wife at the beginning and hosts matches in his awesome man-cave. "Jim-Bob" was up front with his wife and turned out to be my all time favorite.... sadly though, he and I have had a difference of opinion on something that happened, and we are currently not wrestling, though I'm optimistic that we will be able to come to a future agreement and be back on the mats again someday. But these guys, when they have their freedom without any guilt about what they are doing always make the best wrestlers. They are full of energy and I have always had the best times with them.

SINGLE GUYS....what can I say? I LOVE guys who are completely unattached. No worries, no sense of sneaking around. Some of them can even host! This doesn't mean they will all be semi regulars. I had one guy who lives nearby wrestle me a few times, but he admits, he doesn't want to do it on a regular basis. Once in a while is what he wants. That's fine with me. One of my favorites is a divorced dad who has his child twice a week. The nights he has the kid are out of the question, but when he's alone, the only thing preventing us from wrestling is our schedules, which lately have been conflicting.

GUYS WHO LIKE TO FANTASIZE AND TRASH TALK! This is a clear sign that he's serious. Guys who are animated always thirst for more. Flexing, stakes (within parameters for me), trash talk, wanting to watch videos while wrestling, are all signs of a guy who really gets into it.

OUT OF TOWN TRAVELERS! I LOVE these guys. Right now I have a few guys that look me up when they are in the area. There's "Pat" from Philly who has family in the area, he's contacted me when he's visiting them. Our last match was absolutely astounding! We were animals with each other! There's also "Jonah" from the DC area who travels around the world. He contacts me when he's in the Boston area and we go at it. I sure hope I didn't hurt my chances with him last time. Last time he was in the area I was stressed out from the home renovations going on and a busy schedule. Hopefully my lackluster performance won't end our friendship. And there's also "Desi". I LOVE this guy. He lives about 4 to 5 hours away, but we've had some astounding matches when we meet. I even made a special trip at a halfway point recently and we split a room for the night. What a great night it was! Oh and by the way, both "Jonah" and "Desi" are both big time into trash talking and being silly while wrestling. I also wrestled another out-of-towner last week, twice. I think it will not be our last time! woo hoo!

CONVENIENCE. Yes, convenience is a factor. I have one semi regular who works about 20 minutes away and is able to come to my house right after work before he heads back home to MA to take care of business at home.

With all that said, what are some factors to be aware of that are signs that the guy you just wrestled may not be able to do it too frequently? Glad you asked. Here are the main ones....

WORK SCHEDULE: Guys who have their own business, have a demanding work schedule, or work more than one job, don't expect to see them too often. Because even when they have time to wrestle, chances are they will have other things to do or just plain be too tired. Try to accommodate them when they request a match, because chances are you might not have another opportunity any time soon.

DISTANCE: a no-brainer. Driving 90 minutes to 2 hours can seem worth the excitement at the beginning, but once you know the guy, the drive can get old quickly. guys who are a distance, just plan on spacing them out.

SPOUSES OR PARNTERS WHO DON'T KNOW: These guys can be great wrestlers but quite frustrating at the same time. These guys can be very hard to get to commit, and for good reason. They have to think up an excuse almost each time they come to see you. They also have an extremely high cancellation rate. My experience is that unless they are out of towners actually wrestling them will not be regular. Guarantee it.

LARGE EXTENDED FAMILY NEARBY: It doesn't matter what their orientation is. If they are caretakers for elderly parents or have a lot of siblings and nieces and nephews nearby, their free time is limited. The extended family usually has a lot going on when they live close together and they usually depend on the potential wrestler for moral support and help with children or parents...AND RIGHTLY SO. There are such things as priorities in life. Just because my family is scattered and my sons are grown, doesn't mean other guys shouldn't embrace their families. These honorable guys make great sons, brothers, uncles, etc...but usually don't make regular wrestling buddies. When you wrestle such a guy, make the most of that match. Enjoy his company and chat with him through texting or whatever means you prefer, but don't expect to see him again for a while. He's just being a good family member.

RAG DOLL SYNDROME: Have wrestled many guys who just lay limp and don't fight back. These guys usually have to improve just to be "jobbers". Not sure why some of these guys even wrestle but when they don't offer any resistance and seem to be staring into space, face it, this isn't something you want to be doing regularly anyway.

Ok these are my thoughts for the day on this subject. I hope that this will be of some help to anyone reading. If you have any additional thoughts on the subject, feel free to message me and maybe I'll include them in this blog or do a "Part 2".