WORLD OF RAWR

Just a couple of reminders about some things that seem to have escaped people in terms of just simple manners.

I. I have issues with people when they are untruthful. Especially when it comes to profile info.
I don't have a way to see you or even get to know you aside from your profile information. The foundation of everything I will end up learning about you starts there. That said, I - along with a few others - will be upset with you if you display things that are patently false.

By patently false, I mean things like (a) pictures that are years old, (b) inaccurate height and weight info, and (c) inaccurate location info. Honestly, considering how wide and varied the interests of people are in this scene, lying about anything to get someone to talk to you is just unreasonable.

Mind you, I'll never be unpleasant about it, because I'm not unpleasant. Others might be. I'll simply note what happened and fade with the morning mist because the beauty of being an adult is that you can choose to leave situations without making a big fuss about it. That said, fellas, please...

II. I'm not mean.
Seriously, I'm not and I never will be. I don't like putting people in super painful anything and destroying them and humiliating them. I am here for fun, for fun, for, fun. Now rather than rant, I will share a story.

A couple of days ago, someone popped up on chat and complemented me on my profile picture (thank you) and my tattoo (I like it too, it's meaningful to me). Then they asked if I have ever put someone in headscissors (I have and it was fun for both people involved because that's how I roll).

From here, things got weird. Was it painful? Did I humiliate them by making them suck me off? Would I scissor someone until they passed out? My thoughts on each, mostly unspoken, were:

(a) No, it wasn't painful. The person I was wrestling with (and most people I imagine) didn't want to deal with anything especially painful. Like me, they were having fun. I know there is a certain scene of people that really get into the painful part of things, but that's not my camp in spite of my tolerance for pain.

(b) Did I humiliate them by making them suck me off? One, that's reserved space. Very reserved. I'm talking about secrets not even the government knows. Two, why are we humiliating people again? I get that this sport of ours is aggressive and that there are elements of domination in it and so on, but for crying out loud. I'll say this again: I am here for fun. Always. I reserve pain and such for enemies. If I make enemies here and we fight, I will be trying to stop you from hurting me. Not playing around. Smh.

(c) Depriving people of oxygen can be fun in moderate amounts with extreme respect and proper understanding and rapport between two people. That said, as a general rule, I don't do that. Golden rule and whatever. Personally, unless I have a deep trust with someone, the answer would be a nearly automatic hell no.

Things like the above make me wonder if I'm made for wrestling with most people.