edscissors's blog

I'll add my 2 cents. In my short stay in Meet Fighters I blocked one guy from another state who was name calling. I don't need that crap. On that other hand I have been blocked twice after I requested a match. There was no courteous, adult like "no thank you". Both men had profiles in another fight site so messaged them with a lesson in adult, polite behavior. They just blocked me again. Their loss. I have found that the men who respond to my match requests to gentlemen and when we meet up to be great guys.

@edscissors - I don't think any person who blocks another member is worth the fuss. I take any block as a favor for saving me the time to realise I have wasted effort trying to fix a match with the person.

Rather than take a block personally each time, why not find the benefit of the action instead? Venting frustration in blogs is not flattering (plenty enough of that on facebook and the like), it will be ignored by the intended member, and it will likely give a false impression of you to others reading your blogs.

Is this "young guy" really worth all the fuss?

It is simple really, he blocked you because he;

Never wants to meet you
Never wants to receive messages from you
Never wants to see you in his feeds.

I doubt he will care that you posted here about it.

Just perfect jerk behaviour. Doesn't deserve any attention, that's for sure. :)

Someone I didn't even know has, I gather, messaged this young guy, upbraiding him for his bad manners. YoungGuy replied that he didn't want to hear from me so it was up to him whom he blocked. YoungGuy is absolutely right, of course. But lots of us here really value good manners. I'm very inclined to publish our conversation: after just a couple of messages last night, after all, youngGuy urged me to add him as a favourite as he was currently chatting but maybe we could arrange a meeting.

Sorry to be boring but I continue to believe that the "block" button should only be used in extremis. Good luck to "youngGuy" as he seeks older guys to pin him. Will he still be with us in a few weeks' time? I doubt it.

I think in the past year, I blocked only one or two guys–who in their heat of passion handed me crap–but only blocked them temporarily until a typical person would cool down. If a person is simply 'not my type' or a meet-up was not all that great, I'd try to be diplomatic about no future encounters, or even tell them why I'm not interested – especially if it's something they could reasonably remedy. To me, a permanent block is akin to a 'nuclear option,' to be used if a person is abusive, violent, an obvious substance abuser, engaging in criminal activity, or similar egregiously repulsive beyond remedy. I try to work with people here, not against them. So far, I feel I have benefitted from everyone I have met here –, even if only minimally, it is still a net gain. If it's simply a matter of the guy not being a good wrestler, I usually offer to try to help them become better, even to show him a hold, a takedown, or blocking maneuver, whatever to become better, especially if he is new to the site.

Thanks, FighterGuyy. But I thought you were a nice guy?

I certainly didn't mean to "whine". Maybe if my chap reads this - a new member on our site - he'll think again about just hitting the "block" button next time. A polite "no thanks" message rather than a "block" must ALWAYS, surely, be preferable?

Sorry, FighterGuyy, if you are bored by requests for simple good manners.

I mostly am...
But seriously this is a.blog post that repeats here one a month and I fail to see the point. The guy who blocked you will never read it.

Another whine post about getting blocked. I suppose we haven't had one this month yet.