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Changing fight rules right before meeting

Hey men, hope everyone is having a great holiday season! This is a bit of a rant to get this off my chest, but this has me so PISSED OFF!

I was recently planning a wrestling match with a member here - we picked a day and discussed and agreed on the rules and parameters of our match. The day before we were supposed to meet, I message hum to confirm and suddenly I receive a flurry of texts saying he has to work during the time HE SUGGESTED, and lists of more times he is busy. I simply asked what time he is free, and he suggests the ORIGINAL TIME we already agreed on...but now he wants to change the rules we already established, unilaterally, without discussing it with me at all. By now im extremely frustrated and realized this fight was never going to happen. He was full of excuses and actually tried to blame me, and now is childishly refusing to communicate. I'm not sure if there was legitimate misunderstanding, but reviewing the messages I was extremely upfront and tried to be open and clear. Do you think this person was just messing with me the whole time and had no intention of actually meeting? He's got decent recommendations, but I've heard from SEVERAL local guys that he is flaky, inconsistent, and lacks communication skills - I suppose I should have just listened. RANT OVER.

Someone please come to Fort Lauderdale and let's film some hot wrestling content for Watch Fighters 😉

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Last edited on 12/20/2022 3:10 PM by Evan Sterling
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Wrestling legend (14)

12/20/2022 4:03 PM

There are so many flakes out there don't take it personal champ

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jkhammerd (25)

12/20/2022 5:22 PM

I would wrestle you under any rules you wanted.

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bobster (33)

12/20/2022 5:33 PM

Yes, you are right. This character had no intention of meeting you. He simply got his jolly's by messaging you before hand. We have suffered through this and I do feel for you.
I am way out of age range and you skill level far exceeds my own. If you ever travel to the Charlotte area I have mat I would happily let you and an opponent put them to use.
Good luck man.

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lighthouseguy (6 )

12/20/2022 5:43 PM

You didn't say how many past opponents he's had. If he's had more than a couple he's not one of those guys who use the site solely as jackoff material. If by rules you mean wrestling nude and/,or having sexual contact, that could be the issue. I'm not defending him. If your respective boundaries are incompatible he should have never agreed to meet. But human nature is what it is. He may have never done anything erotic before, but decided he was willing to change that. Then at the last minute he realized he would be uncomfortable with that. Same process might apply to recording the match. In a perfect world what happened to you would never happen. You are entitled to be angry. It can be worse, there are guys who traveled and paid for motel rooms. and the other guy didn't show up and deleted his profile the day of the match. Many guys who have done this for a while have had a bad experience or two. I'm afraid that possibility is unavoidable.

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Buho78 (7)

12/20/2022 6:35 PM

Damn let’s wrestle. Fort Lauderdale local here

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KOFistBoxer (2)

12/20/2022 7:10 PM

Maybe he's one of those guys who likes to talk things up and chest thump about how rough and tough he is, but then the second it got too real, he had to start back peddling and dialing things back. Someone may have a lot of "meets", but that doesn't necessarily translate to them doing everything they will claim to from behind the safety of a computer screen, because you can't always tell what was done in those meets. Just like some might have a lot of real world training and experience, but not a lot of past meets with other site members (Because while there are many into light sex play and fantasy, there aren't as many into real, rough, competition.) He might have had some intention of meeting, but it sounds like something freaked him out and gave him cold feet. Either way, best to forget him and move on.

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yonkerswrangler (202)

12/22/2022 7:28 AM

his loss plenty more fish in the sea

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H16111960 (14)

12/22/2022 6:19 PM

Don't worry! This behavior is soooo typical for many guys here. They pretend to be great fighters and the sooner the fight comes, the less they are willing to fight
Good luck to find the 10% of reasonable and reliable men here!

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bigchicago (68)

12/22/2022 7:51 PM

Unless it completely goes against what was originally agreed, I don’t think it’s wrong to change your mind even right before a match. Consent can be given and changed as needed. But I think this person sounds extremely flaky, and they went way beyond mildly changing the rules. They sound inconsiderate.

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Virgowrestler (164 )

12/24/2022 3:19 AM

Oh, I get people changing rules all the time.😞

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yonkerswrangler (202)

12/24/2022 4:23 AM

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It doesn't help them lol

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Like2wrassle (20)

12/25/2022 4:04 AM

I’d wrestle you anytime you want man

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