Centaur's blog
Keeping respect
So, my first blog post, just really want to talk about an issue thatās appeared in the last couple of group matches.
I understand totally this is a lot of guys kink, I get that and respect it, but if you ask to wrestle me in Submission style then have no ability whatsoever, thatās fine, Iām a big guy, we can talk about styles and techniques or you can get wrecked, your choice all good with that.
What Iām fed up with is when there is no competition no attempt at a sport roll itās just an attempt to try for a cheap feel or some kind of way to get yourself off.
Recently I wrestled some older gents, one was totally pleasant and we had a great light subs match, Iām not sure if the other guy was a friend of the first or just someone he felt sorry for but the way that I felt after having a pro match can only be summed up in a word: Dirty
Donāt touch yourself then rub your hand on my mouth, Iāve blocked the offending man so he wonāt see this, but after being relaxed about wrestling a guy old enough to be my father and in pretty poor shape, so Iām being ultra careful that was a literal smack in the face.
Yeah this is a whinge and one day I will be in my late 60s early 70s but if older gents donāt want to be turned down again and again this behaviour needs to be called out.
Get your expectations out in the open and respect boundaries.
JasonAnders (180)
11/17/2022 10:14 PMYou've got such a great feel tho. Irresistible! š¤Ŗš¤š¤š¤
I get it tho. I've had those matches where I've felt dirty too...
Centaur (63)
11/18/2022 2:31 PM(In reply to this)
Maybe Iām just to irresistible šš
Mercury (35)
11/18/2022 2:41 PM(In reply to this)
Hahaha. No
Londonliving123 (27)
11/17/2022 10:19 PMSorry you had that experience man, that sucks :( Now that he's blocked hopefully that's the last of it.
Nothing wrong with having preference for a more erotic match, but you've gotta be up front about it. CONSENT PEOPLE! š¤
Centaur (63)
11/17/2022 10:44 PM(In reply to this)
Consent is king in ALL things! :)
bobster (34)
11/17/2022 10:26 PMAll I can say to SwinGuy34 is DITTO! Well put and well said.
scrapper02 (157 )
11/17/2022 11:28 PM@SwinGuy34 - perfectly stated. Upfront expectations and consent are key, and being super specific helps. Not everyone defines āwrestlingā or ācompetitiveā or ādirty tacticsā or even āeroticā the same way.
Same applies to photos, videos, and sharing, trust and consent!
Also - awesome to have filled with you.
TBLHockeyGeek (81 )
11/18/2022 1:44 AMUnfortunately blog posts are excluded from blocks. It's still visible and readable just can't post a comment.
Centaur (63)
11/18/2022 8:21 AM(In reply to this)
Well maybe thatās a good thing to
Adam J (17)
11/18/2022 1:50 AMI'm all for getting a bit kinky but providing it's just an after thought thing. At the end of the day if someone doesn't want to get sexual with you they should respect that.
Mercury (35)
11/18/2022 8:24 AMCompletely agree with this. I had a match years ago where someone put something where I hadnāt consented to. It happened very quickly and on the one side I can see how it happened (obviously) but on the other side it was wrong and something we hadnāt agreed to.
I never met that guy again, and even to this day it is something I feel a bit urgh about
surrey71 (21 )
11/18/2022 8:48 AMI met a guy at Hendon matroom (years ago), not going to name him - obviously, but he was old enough to be my Dad.
He took the opportunity for a match to cop a feel down my speedo and despite me saying no he kept on going - like he was possessed by some sort of Demon.
In the end I prayed for it to stop - but he kept going so I called an end to the proceedings. Got dressed, left - he started preaching it was what I had signed up for - bloody well hadnāt!!
So weāll said for calling out other guys who are misbehaving in groups - or even singles meets - if thereās no consent then donāt do it!
HairyNerdIt (14 )
11/18/2022 9:02 AMWell the base of the meetings is thst both the opponents need to have fun and have a good time, is always important that both the guys have a great time on the mat!You are a very nice guy, i am really sorry for what happened and can t believe about that... it 's no good when things like that happens
Shoot (16 )
11/18/2022 4:59 PMThis belongs under splade2submission post of 11/6 about "real."
Sparrhawk (8)
11/18/2022 10:28 PMI agree. I'm here to wrestle, so the struggle is what makes it fun.
JStiles85 (19)
11/23/2022 3:20 PMyeah I can understand that for sure. I had that happen twice to me (years ago) and I never saw those indivduals again. Keyword is consent